Day Twelve:
"With all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love." Eph. 4:2
Part of the difficulty you may face as you continue in this 30-day challenge to encourage your husband is that you really are struggling to find positive things to praise. Perhaps the problem is not with your husband. Have you checked your own heart?
Sometimes we get disillusioned because of our own unreasonable or unrealistic expectations (Prov. 13:12). It may not be that our mates are doing something wrong; it's simply that we expect too much in some areas.
Our expectations must be met in God alone, and then we will have the right perspective to ask God for the healing and grace we need to respond to others.
How sad that we give more grace to others than to those in our own homes. Today, try to look at your husband through eyes of grace. Verbally thank your husband for what he is already doing.
Day Thirteen:
"I am my beloved's, and his desire is toward me." Song of Solomon 7:10
The sexual relationship. It's one of those elements - along with money and children - that can derail a marriage through negative comments. Negativity destroys intimacy, but encouragement builds and strengthens the marriage bond.
Let's get practical here. Is your husband a "good lover?" Have you told him so? Be specific. Let him know when he pleases you. Most husbands genuinely want to please their wives, especially in this important area of marriage.
In moments of intimacy, do you find your mind wandering? This can change as you focus on something wonderful about your husband. Realize that your husband wants intimacy with you...his desire is toward you.
Does this area of your marriage need some work? Remember that this is a sensitive area for men. Be sure to encourage his lovemaking and masculinity in positive ways.
Sunday, May 29, 2011
Friday, May 27, 2011
Day 11 of 30
Day Eleven:
"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord." Eph. 5:22
Women who are constantly negative toward their husbands - especially by speaking evil of them to others - show great disrespect. Determine not to do that today (or ever!). This challenge to encourage is closely connected to submission.
Men respond to women who respect them. What do you respect about your husband? Part of that respect includes submission to his authority. Let your husband know how respecting him makes it easier to submit to his leadership. Show your respect in public by listening to him and smiling at him when he speaks. Place your hand in his as you walk together.
If you feel there is nothing to respect, search harder ...nearly every man has some core characteristic that can be nurtured and respected. In any case, you must still cultivate a submissive spirit to his position of leadership..."as to the Lord."
I'm a very bold and outgoing person. Submission is typically a fault of mine. It's not easy for me to follow, as I am a natural leader. However, when it is an important matter or something that really affects our life, I bite my tongue, step back and submit. Being married 3 1/2 years, not too many things have come up in this instance. But in those times I have willingly followed the direction of my husband. When push comes to shove, he is a great husband and head of the family. He tries his best to put the needs of myself and babygirl before his own which I appreciate beyond words.
"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord." Eph. 5:22
Women who are constantly negative toward their husbands - especially by speaking evil of them to others - show great disrespect. Determine not to do that today (or ever!). This challenge to encourage is closely connected to submission.
Men respond to women who respect them. What do you respect about your husband? Part of that respect includes submission to his authority. Let your husband know how respecting him makes it easier to submit to his leadership. Show your respect in public by listening to him and smiling at him when he speaks. Place your hand in his as you walk together.
If you feel there is nothing to respect, search harder ...nearly every man has some core characteristic that can be nurtured and respected. In any case, you must still cultivate a submissive spirit to his position of leadership..."as to the Lord."
I'm a very bold and outgoing person. Submission is typically a fault of mine. It's not easy for me to follow, as I am a natural leader. However, when it is an important matter or something that really affects our life, I bite my tongue, step back and submit. Being married 3 1/2 years, not too many things have come up in this instance. But in those times I have willingly followed the direction of my husband. When push comes to shove, he is a great husband and head of the family. He tries his best to put the needs of myself and babygirl before his own which I appreciate beyond words.
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Day 10 of 30
Day Ten:
"Behold you are handsome, my beloved! Yes, pleasant!..." Song of Solomon 1:16a
We all crave appreciation. We want to know that we are valued and loved. Early love letters probably reflected our admiration, but if we're not careful, our spouse will forget why we were drawn to him. If you still have any of your old love letters, re-read them for clues to deepen your current level of appreciation for your spouse.
When we spend time criticizing our husbands, we lose time that could be spent admiring them. As you consider various ways to encourage your husband, ask, "How can I admire him?"
Does your husband know that you think he is attractive? What was one of the characteristics in your husband that first drew you to him? Was it a physical characteristic, or something else?
Was it his gentle, compassionate eyes? Kindness or concern for others? An easy-going confidence? A steadiness that comes from trusting in the Lord? Strength of character in a culture that lacks integrity? Do you see at least a glimpse of that characteristic in him today? Whatever it is, tell him!
This is my attempt to initiate my challenge..
"Hubby, tell me a story."
"What?"
"Tell me a bedtime story so I can fall asleep."
"Once upon a time."
-- I shut his laptop here--
"Don't! Ok, once upon a time I love you. The end."
-- I shut his laptop again--
"I want your attention!"
"Just go to bed!"
and that was me failing my challenge. I was liking this one. I was going to talk about the night we met. Our 'Target' story. But I guess not. This is me pouting.
"Behold you are handsome, my beloved! Yes, pleasant!..." Song of Solomon 1:16a
We all crave appreciation. We want to know that we are valued and loved. Early love letters probably reflected our admiration, but if we're not careful, our spouse will forget why we were drawn to him. If you still have any of your old love letters, re-read them for clues to deepen your current level of appreciation for your spouse.
When we spend time criticizing our husbands, we lose time that could be spent admiring them. As you consider various ways to encourage your husband, ask, "How can I admire him?"
Does your husband know that you think he is attractive? What was one of the characteristics in your husband that first drew you to him? Was it a physical characteristic, or something else?
Was it his gentle, compassionate eyes? Kindness or concern for others? An easy-going confidence? A steadiness that comes from trusting in the Lord? Strength of character in a culture that lacks integrity? Do you see at least a glimpse of that characteristic in him today? Whatever it is, tell him!
This is my attempt to initiate my challenge..
"Hubby, tell me a story."
"What?"
"Tell me a bedtime story so I can fall asleep."
"Once upon a time."
-- I shut his laptop here--
"Don't! Ok, once upon a time I love you. The end."
-- I shut his laptop again--
"I want your attention!"
"Just go to bed!"
and that was me failing my challenge. I was liking this one. I was going to talk about the night we met. Our 'Target' story. But I guess not. This is me pouting.
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Days 8 and 9 of 30
Day Eight:
How are you doing with the "30-Day Encouragement Challenge"? In case you've forgotten, here's the challenge:
* You can't say anything negative about your husband ...to your husband...or to anyone else, about your husband.
* Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband...to your husband...and to someone else, about your husband!
"...but who can find a faithful man?" Prov. 20:6b
Faithfulness is a wonderful but rare quality today, especially in regard to marriage. Do you understand how important this quality is? Your challenge is to continue to root out all negative speaking, and plant seeds of encouragement instead. You may be amazed at what will grow.
Contemporary culture often entices men to be unfaithful to their wedding vows and spiritual commitments. Appreciate your husband's faithfulness - how he is loyal to you. Let him know that you are glad he has "stick-to-it-iveness" in your marriage. Appreciate his faithfulness to God. (If you have an unfaithful husband, this is a difficult area for you. Pray, speak the truth in love, remain faithful yourself, and discover ways to encourage faithfulness in your mate. The Bible says that husbands may "...be won by the conduct of their wives" [1 Pet. 3:1]. You may also want to seek counsel from a mature, godly individual or couple.)
Day Nine:
"...be swift to hear, slow to speak..." James 1:19b
We are often so busy speaking that we don't take time to listen. We are so quick to offer a comment - negative or positive - that we don't really "hear" our husband's heart. Remember: we have two ears and only one mouth. We need to listen more!
As you continue in your 30-day challenge, not speaking negatively and focusing on positive encouragement, hear the Lord's admonition today: "Be swift to hear."
If listening is a real problem for you, play a game with yourself. See if you can listen to your husband for one whole day, only speaking when asked a question. If your husband notices the difference, explain that you are learning to listen more-not only to God, but also to him.
One easy way to express admiration for your husband is to ask a question about something he enjoys, and then listen to his response. If it's an area of personal familiarity, keep asking questions until you learn something you didn't know, then tell him, "Wow, I didn't know that!"
source
How are you doing with the "30-Day Encouragement Challenge"? In case you've forgotten, here's the challenge:
* You can't say anything negative about your husband ...to your husband...or to anyone else, about your husband.
* Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband...to your husband...and to someone else, about your husband!
"...but who can find a faithful man?" Prov. 20:6b
Faithfulness is a wonderful but rare quality today, especially in regard to marriage. Do you understand how important this quality is? Your challenge is to continue to root out all negative speaking, and plant seeds of encouragement instead. You may be amazed at what will grow.
Contemporary culture often entices men to be unfaithful to their wedding vows and spiritual commitments. Appreciate your husband's faithfulness - how he is loyal to you. Let him know that you are glad he has "stick-to-it-iveness" in your marriage. Appreciate his faithfulness to God. (If you have an unfaithful husband, this is a difficult area for you. Pray, speak the truth in love, remain faithful yourself, and discover ways to encourage faithfulness in your mate. The Bible says that husbands may "...be won by the conduct of their wives" [1 Pet. 3:1]. You may also want to seek counsel from a mature, godly individual or couple.)
Day Nine:
"...be swift to hear, slow to speak..." James 1:19b
We are often so busy speaking that we don't take time to listen. We are so quick to offer a comment - negative or positive - that we don't really "hear" our husband's heart. Remember: we have two ears and only one mouth. We need to listen more!
As you continue in your 30-day challenge, not speaking negatively and focusing on positive encouragement, hear the Lord's admonition today: "Be swift to hear."
If listening is a real problem for you, play a game with yourself. See if you can listen to your husband for one whole day, only speaking when asked a question. If your husband notices the difference, explain that you are learning to listen more-not only to God, but also to him.
One easy way to express admiration for your husband is to ask a question about something he enjoys, and then listen to his response. If it's an area of personal familiarity, keep asking questions until you learn something you didn't know, then tell him, "Wow, I didn't know that!"
source
Monday, May 23, 2011
Day 7 of 30
Day Seven:
"Do not overwork to be rich; because of your own understanding, cease!...for riches certainly make themselves wings..." Prov. 23:4-5
"That I may cause those who love me to inherit wealth, that I may fill their treasuries." Proverbs 8:21
Money is the root of much marital discord. Ask yourself, "Am I being negative toward my husband in the area of finances?" Determine not to speak evil of your husband in this area. Discover ways to encourage and help him instead.
Does your husband handle finances wisely? Does he make good financial investments, based on biblical principles? Does he have a budget? Does he make wise decisions about purchases - checking many sources before he buys? Is he a good steward of his money before the Lord? Let him know how much you appreciate his strengths in financial matters.
If he is weak in this area, encourage any good decisions that he does make. Perhaps you can help him, if he's open to the idea, by organizing financial files or providing other practical assistance. Or, if he wants you to handle the finances, ask for his input before you make decisions that will affect him.
"Do not overwork to be rich; because of your own understanding, cease!...for riches certainly make themselves wings..." Prov. 23:4-5
"That I may cause those who love me to inherit wealth, that I may fill their treasuries." Proverbs 8:21
Money is the root of much marital discord. Ask yourself, "Am I being negative toward my husband in the area of finances?" Determine not to speak evil of your husband in this area. Discover ways to encourage and help him instead.
Does your husband handle finances wisely? Does he make good financial investments, based on biblical principles? Does he have a budget? Does he make wise decisions about purchases - checking many sources before he buys? Is he a good steward of his money before the Lord? Let him know how much you appreciate his strengths in financial matters.
If he is weak in this area, encourage any good decisions that he does make. Perhaps you can help him, if he's open to the idea, by organizing financial files or providing other practical assistance. Or, if he wants you to handle the finances, ask for his input before you make decisions that will affect him.
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Are you enjoying this "30-Day Encouragement Challenge"? Have you learned something about your own relationship with the Lord as you seek to encourage your husband? Why not take a minute to jot a note to us at Revive Our Hearts, to share with us how God is touching your heart? Just go here: http://www.reviveourhearts.com/interact/contactus.htm
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Day 6 of 30
Day Six:
"...whatever ye do, do all to the glory of God." 1 Cor. 10:31b
Do you recognize and appreciate your husband's creativity? Or do you criticize and demean his efforts? Instead of negativity, determine to be positive. Perhaps you can help your husband see that his efforts are an opportunity to glorify God.
Is your husband the "creative" type? Does he have any artistic gifts? What is that special "knack" he has? Affirm him for his handiwork - a hobby, music, gardening, tinkering with cars, working with wood, etc. Remember: Even if he doesn't measure up to your standards, praise his efforts. If your budget allows, buy him a book or magazine that will continue to encourage his special skill or talent.
If you have a hard time finding his "creative side," understand that men's creativity sometimes is related to their work. Find something he does to make his job run more smoothly or something he does that adds value to his work...and let him know that you have noticed.
Make his day...Praise his accomplishments in public, while he is listening.
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"...whatever ye do, do all to the glory of God." 1 Cor. 10:31b
Do you recognize and appreciate your husband's creativity? Or do you criticize and demean his efforts? Instead of negativity, determine to be positive. Perhaps you can help your husband see that his efforts are an opportunity to glorify God.
Is your husband the "creative" type? Does he have any artistic gifts? What is that special "knack" he has? Affirm him for his handiwork - a hobby, music, gardening, tinkering with cars, working with wood, etc. Remember: Even if he doesn't measure up to your standards, praise his efforts. If your budget allows, buy him a book or magazine that will continue to encourage his special skill or talent.
If you have a hard time finding his "creative side," understand that men's creativity sometimes is related to their work. Find something he does to make his job run more smoothly or something he does that adds value to his work...and let him know that you have noticed.
Make his day...Praise his accomplishments in public, while he is listening.
source
Saturday, May 21, 2011
Day 5 of 30
Day Five:
"Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers." Eph. 4:29
Another way to describe the positive side of this "30-Day Encouragement Challenge" is by using the word "edify," which means, "to build up." Negative comments only discourage and tear down. Positive comments encourage and build.
Do you edify your husband before others, adding to his value in their eyes? This is especially important to other family members.
Do you praise your husband to his relatives, and yours? Does your husband's mother know how much you love him? How about your dad? Perhaps you can drop a word of praise into a conversation or letter. Be creative in letting your relatives know that you respect your husband, love him, and support him - in spite of whatever flaws and weaknesses he may have.
This is an easy challenge today. Facebook! All I have to do is post something about hubby on FB and everyone of his family members and mine will be able to see, along with all of our friends.
"Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers." Eph. 4:29
Another way to describe the positive side of this "30-Day Encouragement Challenge" is by using the word "edify," which means, "to build up." Negative comments only discourage and tear down. Positive comments encourage and build.
Do you edify your husband before others, adding to his value in their eyes? This is especially important to other family members.
Do you praise your husband to his relatives, and yours? Does your husband's mother know how much you love him? How about your dad? Perhaps you can drop a word of praise into a conversation or letter. Be creative in letting your relatives know that you respect your husband, love him, and support him - in spite of whatever flaws and weaknesses he may have.
This is an easy challenge today. Facebook! All I have to do is post something about hubby on FB and everyone of his family members and mine will be able to see, along with all of our friends.
Day 4
Day Four:
"...let him labor, working with his hands what is good..." Eph. 4:28
We are all accountable for the things we say, both negative and positive words. Have you embraced the challenge to speak only positive things to your husband and to others about him? Here's a suggestion that touches the core of your husband's world.
Some women take their husband's career for granted, and they show it in many ways. Do you "dump" on your husband at the end of the workday, or do you strengthen and encourage him with your words? A wise wife will make her husband feel that she values and appreciates his work. Let him know that you are glad he is a hard worker. Take opportunities to praise his diligence and resourcefulness to others.
If your husband is out of work, unable to work, or refuses to work, you'll need to be more creative. Praise him for a character quality that you see in him that would be a vital part of a successful career - such as persistence, decisiveness, strength, an analytical mind, organizational skills, good with people, good listener, determination, etc.
This is how my challenge went..
Look at clock. Realize it's 10:45 and I haven't said anything.
Hey honey..
What?
Thanks for having a job.
What??
I said thanks for having a job.
Uh ok? Why? Are you quitting yours or something?
Not exactly the way I planned a challenge but I wasn't feeling well and I was beyond exhausted.. At least I got it done for the day! =)
"...let him labor, working with his hands what is good..." Eph. 4:28
We are all accountable for the things we say, both negative and positive words. Have you embraced the challenge to speak only positive things to your husband and to others about him? Here's a suggestion that touches the core of your husband's world.
Some women take their husband's career for granted, and they show it in many ways. Do you "dump" on your husband at the end of the workday, or do you strengthen and encourage him with your words? A wise wife will make her husband feel that she values and appreciates his work. Let him know that you are glad he is a hard worker. Take opportunities to praise his diligence and resourcefulness to others.
If your husband is out of work, unable to work, or refuses to work, you'll need to be more creative. Praise him for a character quality that you see in him that would be a vital part of a successful career - such as persistence, decisiveness, strength, an analytical mind, organizational skills, good with people, good listener, determination, etc.
This is how my challenge went..
Look at clock. Realize it's 10:45 and I haven't said anything.
Hey honey..
What?
Thanks for having a job.
What??
I said thanks for having a job.
Uh ok? Why? Are you quitting yours or something?
Not exactly the way I planned a challenge but I wasn't feeling well and I was beyond exhausted.. At least I got it done for the day! =)
Thursday, May 19, 2011
Day 3 of 30
Day Three:
"...love suffers long, and is kind..." 1 Cor. 13:4
"And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus." Phil. 4:19
Love indeed suffers long and is kind. As you consider your Encouragement Challenge, determine today that you will not say anything negative to or about your husband. Speak kindly to him with words of genuine encouragement.
If your husband is considerate of your needs, let him know that you have noticed. Thank him for his kindness and consideration. Thank the Lord that your husband knows how to be both tough and tender.
Sometimes it's difficult for a man to be gentle, kind or tender - especially if he hasn't had role models in these areas. If he's not a considerate person, appeal to him for help without complaining. Let him know that it's hard for you to handle some things alone. Then, when he moves in to help, don't insist that he do it your way. Be glad that he is responding, and express your gratitude.
Ultimately, you can't expect your husband to make you feel more secure, loved, etc. Remember that only God can meet the deepest needs of your heart.
source
"...love suffers long, and is kind..." 1 Cor. 13:4
"And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus." Phil. 4:19
Love indeed suffers long and is kind. As you consider your Encouragement Challenge, determine today that you will not say anything negative to or about your husband. Speak kindly to him with words of genuine encouragement.
If your husband is considerate of your needs, let him know that you have noticed. Thank him for his kindness and consideration. Thank the Lord that your husband knows how to be both tough and tender.
Sometimes it's difficult for a man to be gentle, kind or tender - especially if he hasn't had role models in these areas. If he's not a considerate person, appeal to him for help without complaining. Let him know that it's hard for you to handle some things alone. Then, when he moves in to help, don't insist that he do it your way. Be glad that he is responding, and express your gratitude.
Ultimately, you can't expect your husband to make you feel more secure, loved, etc. Remember that only God can meet the deepest needs of your heart.
source
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Day 2 of 30
Follow along with me as I work on improving my marriage with the 30 day Challenge
Day Two:
"...through love serve one another." Gal. 5:13b
How did you do yesterday with your first day of blessing and encouraging your husband? Was it easy? Was it hard to hold your tongue when you wanted to say something negative? We hope you're off to a good start. (If you blew it, don't give up - start again today!) There are so many practical things you can praise, if you look for them.
Today, find some way that your husband is serving you or your family. Does he help around the house? Take care of the car? Fix things that are broken? If your budget allows, give him a new, small tool with a big bow attached. But make sure he doesn't think it's part of a "Honey Do" list!
Maybe your husband's not a handyman, but does he run errands for you? Let you go first? Take care of you when you are sick? Help you make decisions? Praise him for his willingness to serve others. Let him know that you see his unique service as a great strength.
I can't blog while my husband is looking over my shoulder! Especially when the post is regarding him! ;) This is probably the one time I wish he didn't check my blog all the time to see if there is anything new.
My husband does a fantastic job throughout the week. We are lucky enough to have work schedules that enable us the not have babygirl at a sitters except for just one day a week. Tuesday-Friday babygirl and daddy get to spend the day together. He does an amazing job at taking care of her while I'm at work. Now he could help straighten things up around the house during the week more... but we're not supposed to make this negative. ;)
Hubby tilled up the flower beds today when I got home from work. He hates taking care of the flower beds in the summer! Set him up on his lawn mower once a week and he will call it a day. He knows how much I like to have a nice looking yard and he grumbles and moans when I go out to weed things by myself. Regardless of how much he REALLY doesn't want to, he usually moseys his way outside to help me. Maybe that was just last year though, just when I was a big ol fat pregnant lady huffing and puffing in the front yard for all the neighbors to see.
Today's challenge was rather easy because of him working outside. Honestly, the opportunity to thank him for his hard work just kind of fell in my lap. I know if it was up to him, he probably wouldn't ever deal with the landscaping. But he knows I like to have nice things and so he goes out of his way to make those nice things happen.
I love you mister. Thank you again =)
Day Two:
"...through love serve one another." Gal. 5:13b
How did you do yesterday with your first day of blessing and encouraging your husband? Was it easy? Was it hard to hold your tongue when you wanted to say something negative? We hope you're off to a good start. (If you blew it, don't give up - start again today!) There are so many practical things you can praise, if you look for them.
Today, find some way that your husband is serving you or your family. Does he help around the house? Take care of the car? Fix things that are broken? If your budget allows, give him a new, small tool with a big bow attached. But make sure he doesn't think it's part of a "Honey Do" list!
Maybe your husband's not a handyman, but does he run errands for you? Let you go first? Take care of you when you are sick? Help you make decisions? Praise him for his willingness to serve others. Let him know that you see his unique service as a great strength.
I can't blog while my husband is looking over my shoulder! Especially when the post is regarding him! ;) This is probably the one time I wish he didn't check my blog all the time to see if there is anything new.
My husband does a fantastic job throughout the week. We are lucky enough to have work schedules that enable us the not have babygirl at a sitters except for just one day a week. Tuesday-Friday babygirl and daddy get to spend the day together. He does an amazing job at taking care of her while I'm at work. Now he could help straighten things up around the house during the week more... but we're not supposed to make this negative. ;)
Hubby tilled up the flower beds today when I got home from work. He hates taking care of the flower beds in the summer! Set him up on his lawn mower once a week and he will call it a day. He knows how much I like to have a nice looking yard and he grumbles and moans when I go out to weed things by myself. Regardless of how much he REALLY doesn't want to, he usually moseys his way outside to help me. Maybe that was just last year though, just when I was a big ol fat pregnant lady huffing and puffing in the front yard for all the neighbors to see.
Today's challenge was rather easy because of him working outside. Honestly, the opportunity to thank him for his hard work just kind of fell in my lap. I know if it was up to him, he probably wouldn't ever deal with the landscaping. But he knows I like to have nice things and so he goes out of his way to make those nice things happen.
I love you mister. Thank you again =)
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
30-Day Challenge
So after reading a few of the blogs that I follow, I have decided to join in on the 30-Day Challenge I am so excited to begin and see the difference it makes in my marriage!
Thanks to one of my favorites.. the LINC for starting the challenge herself. Otherwise I would've never known! I have participated in the Love Dare before. I'm hoping to strengthen my marriage in the next 30 days. The only downfall is, my husband checks my blog daily to see if I've posted! ;)
Day One:
"The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life." Prov. 31:11-12
To refresh your memory...here's the 30-Day Encouragement Challenge...for the next 30 days:
* You can't say anything negative about your husband ...to your husband...or to anyone else, about your husband.
* Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband...to your husband...and to someone else, about your husband!
To help you get started, have you ever thanked your husband for "choosing you" above all other women? He found you attractive as a person, and appreciated you. Though many circumstances in your marriage may have changed, let your husband know that you are glad God led you together, and that you want to be a blessing to him for the rest of your marriage. Let him know that he can trust you to be in his corner.
One of the best opportunities to express your gratitude is first thing in the morning. How do you greet your husband each morning? Is he confident in your love? Give him a "wake up call" that he'll never forget-a big "I love you" and an "I'm so glad I'm your wife!"
Thanks to one of my favorites.. the LINC for starting the challenge herself. Otherwise I would've never known! I have participated in the Love Dare before. I'm hoping to strengthen my marriage in the next 30 days. The only downfall is, my husband checks my blog daily to see if I've posted! ;)
Day One:
"The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life." Prov. 31:11-12
To refresh your memory...here's the 30-Day Encouragement Challenge...for the next 30 days:
* You can't say anything negative about your husband ...to your husband...or to anyone else, about your husband.
* Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband...to your husband...and to someone else, about your husband!
To help you get started, have you ever thanked your husband for "choosing you" above all other women? He found you attractive as a person, and appreciated you. Though many circumstances in your marriage may have changed, let your husband know that you are glad God led you together, and that you want to be a blessing to him for the rest of your marriage. Let him know that he can trust you to be in his corner.
One of the best opportunities to express your gratitude is first thing in the morning. How do you greet your husband each morning? Is he confident in your love? Give him a "wake up call" that he'll never forget-a big "I love you" and an "I'm so glad I'm your wife!"
Monday, May 16, 2011
Here I go again..
And so the search begins again. How frustrating! I have been uncomfortable for a while but have tried to shake it off. I didn't want to end up in the same boat as before. However, this time I don't feel like my back is against the wall. I don't feel like I'm about to fall off the edge. So it's easier to walk away. Not as much time was invested here. I've got my search down to two options. One is more in my comfort zone. The other is definitely a stretch.
So here I go again...
So here I go again...
Monday, May 9, 2011
3's
Okay, here is what I'm supposed to do. I thought this would be slightly interesting. Since I probably shouldn't say what I really want to say. Sighs.
List 3 joys, 3 fears, 3 current obsessions and 3 surprising facts.
joys
1. Feeling needed every second of the day since becoming a mother.
2. Zoning out to music on my iPhone while laying in the warm tanning bed.
3. Cuddling up in a warm bed next to hubby. There's nothing like the security I feel just knowing he's there.
fears
1. At any moment something drastic would happen to babygirl and she would be gone.
2. Not having enough time to record all the precious moments of babygirl changing and growing.
3. Hubby's motorcycle since my dad had a minor accident on his own.
obsessions
1. Blogs.
2. Anything Mormon or polygamy related.
3. Taking a million pictures per day of babygirl.
facts
1. When I find something new and interesting, I will dive into it and obsess.. (see #2 of obsessions)
2. I would love to have 27439874 babies. Call me Michelle Duggar Jr. ;)
3. I would love to get married to hubby again.. on a beach.. barefoot..
List 3 joys, 3 fears, 3 current obsessions and 3 surprising facts.
joys
1. Feeling needed every second of the day since becoming a mother.
2. Zoning out to music on my iPhone while laying in the warm tanning bed.
3. Cuddling up in a warm bed next to hubby. There's nothing like the security I feel just knowing he's there.
fears
1. At any moment something drastic would happen to babygirl and she would be gone.
2. Not having enough time to record all the precious moments of babygirl changing and growing.
3. Hubby's motorcycle since my dad had a minor accident on his own.
obsessions
1. Blogs.
2. Anything Mormon or polygamy related.
3. Taking a million pictures per day of babygirl.
facts
1. When I find something new and interesting, I will dive into it and obsess.. (see #2 of obsessions)
2. I would love to have 27439874 babies. Call me Michelle Duggar Jr. ;)
3. I would love to get married to hubby again.. on a beach.. barefoot..
Sunday, May 8, 2011
Mother's Day
Today I celebrated my first Mother's Day with a child I could physically hold. It wasn't until I was sitting in church that it hit me. I should have a pew filled with little ones. I was overcome with emotion at the thought of my two angel babies that I wasn't able to meet.
Techincally I have been a mother since 2008. I carried two babies before I carried and delivered babygirl. I don't like to talk about it much. Yet, it's one of those things that makes it more painful to keep bottled up. Some days I can just move on as if nothing ever happened. I am so beyond blessed to have babygirl here with me, but there is a part of me that still wants my other two. They should be here. I should be chasing after 3 little ones today.
God has a greater plan. He'll never put more on us than we can bear. But honestly.. sometimes life just stinks. I'll never understand. But I know that one day when I get to Heaven, I'll walk down those streets and my two angel babies will come running up to me. I'll gather them in my arms, and it will be as if we've always known each other.
As life goes on, I will never forget them. I hope my hubby takes a moment from time to time to remember those precious babies that we wanted so badly. I hope he sneaks an extra kiss on babygirl's sleeping face in the night as he thinks of her older siblings.
Here are some photos of my first (physical) Mother's Day.
Techincally I have been a mother since 2008. I carried two babies before I carried and delivered babygirl. I don't like to talk about it much. Yet, it's one of those things that makes it more painful to keep bottled up. Some days I can just move on as if nothing ever happened. I am so beyond blessed to have babygirl here with me, but there is a part of me that still wants my other two. They should be here. I should be chasing after 3 little ones today.
God has a greater plan. He'll never put more on us than we can bear. But honestly.. sometimes life just stinks. I'll never understand. But I know that one day when I get to Heaven, I'll walk down those streets and my two angel babies will come running up to me. I'll gather them in my arms, and it will be as if we've always known each other.
As life goes on, I will never forget them. I hope my hubby takes a moment from time to time to remember those precious babies that we wanted so badly. I hope he sneaks an extra kiss on babygirl's sleeping face in the night as he thinks of her older siblings.
Here are some photos of my first (physical) Mother's Day.
Bath time before church
Beautiful babygirl posing for mama. Showing off them teeth.
Daddy's twin
Mama and Baby
She got the style from her mama =)
I received this in an email. I love it.
Before I was a Mom,
I never tripped over toys
or forgot words to a lullaby.
I didn't worry whether or not
my plants were poisonous.
I never thought about immunizations.
Before I was a Mom,
I had never been puked on.
Pooped on.
Chewed on.
Peed on.
I had complete control of my mind
and my thoughts. I slept all night.
Before I was a Mom,
I never held down a screaming child
so doctors could do tests.
Or give shots.
I never looked into teary eyes and cried.
I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin.
I never sat up late hours at night
watching a baby sleep.
Before I was a Mom,
I never held a sleeping baby just because
I didn't want to put her down.
I never felt my heart break into a million pieces
when I couldn't stop the hurt.
I never knew that something so small
could affect my life so much.
I never knew that I could love someone so much. I never knew I would love being a Mom.
Before I was a Mom,
I didn't know the feeling of
having my heart outside my body..
I didn't know how special it could feel
to feed a hungry baby.
I didn't know that bond
between a mother and her child.
I didn't know that something so small
could make me feel so important and happy.
Before I was a Mom,
I had never gotten up in the middle of the night
every 10 minutes to make sure all was okay.
I had never known the warmth,
the joy,
the love,
the heartache,
the wonderment
or the satisfaction of being a Mom.
I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much, before I was a Mom
I never tripped over toys
or forgot words to a lullaby.
I didn't worry whether or not
my plants were poisonous.
I never thought about immunizations.
Before I was a Mom,
I had never been puked on.
Pooped on.
Chewed on.
Peed on.
I had complete control of my mind
and my thoughts. I slept all night.
Before I was a Mom,
I never held down a screaming child
so doctors could do tests.
Or give shots.
I never looked into teary eyes and cried.
I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin.
I never sat up late hours at night
watching a baby sleep.
Before I was a Mom,
I never held a sleeping baby just because
I didn't want to put her down.
I never felt my heart break into a million pieces
when I couldn't stop the hurt.
I never knew that something so small
could affect my life so much.
I never knew that I could love someone so much. I never knew I would love being a Mom.
Before I was a Mom,
I didn't know the feeling of
having my heart outside my body..
I didn't know how special it could feel
to feed a hungry baby.
I didn't know that bond
between a mother and her child.
I didn't know that something so small
could make me feel so important and happy.
Before I was a Mom,
I had never gotten up in the middle of the night
every 10 minutes to make sure all was okay.
I had never known the warmth,
the joy,
the love,
the heartache,
the wonderment
or the satisfaction of being a Mom.
I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much, before I was a Mom
Thursday, May 5, 2011
wild nights and mothers gifts
May is filled with weddings! Of my Brittany's! First, my cousin is getting married on the 14. Then a close friend of mine is getting married on the 21. It is so fun and exciting to see everyone that I grew up with getting married. Both of their bachelorette parties were this past weekend. Here are some embarrasing pictures since I know only like, 3 people follow my blog. ;)
I am so excited for my first Mother's Day! It has been a very long road to get here! After 2 years of struggles, I can finally celebrate and thank God for my perfect miracle. It is such a privilege to be a mother. There are many women who long to be a mother but can't due to numerous circumstances. My heart aches for them. I know the thoughts and feeling one has when thinking they won't be able to have a child of their own.
On a lighter note!! =)
I had an awesome DIY moment when planning for this Mother's Day. My mom asked me to stitch her grandbabies names on a tshirt inside of a heart a few months back and that sparked an idea for a gift.
I am so excited for my first Mother's Day! It has been a very long road to get here! After 2 years of struggles, I can finally celebrate and thank God for my perfect miracle. It is such a privilege to be a mother. There are many women who long to be a mother but can't due to numerous circumstances. My heart aches for them. I know the thoughts and feeling one has when thinking they won't be able to have a child of their own.
On a lighter note!! =)
I had an awesome DIY moment when planning for this Mother's Day. My mom asked me to stitch her grandbabies names on a tshirt inside of a heart a few months back and that sparked an idea for a gift.
Here is the finished project. Looking super cute.
Carter family tree for my mother-in-law
Hartman family tree for my momma
I am SO happy with how they both turned out! I know they will just love them. I was sure to leave room to add more names to our ever growing families.
Monday, May 2, 2011
blessed beyond measure
Crazy, insane tornadoes hit Alabama last week. Almost 300 people died.
Yet, I got to sit on my couch, in my warm house, snuggling my healthy babygirl. She was able to sleep in her own bed, surrounded by numerous toys and way too many clothes and shoes.
I was able to come out to my family room and see my wedding album, babygirl's birth photos. My memories.
Not the ones I store in my head. The tangible memories that are all safe and sound.
I hope to never step out of the umbrella of His protection. I am so blessed. Most days I take it for granted. It's sad.
Yet, I got to sit on my couch, in my warm house, snuggling my healthy babygirl. She was able to sleep in her own bed, surrounded by numerous toys and way too many clothes and shoes.
I was able to come out to my family room and see my wedding album, babygirl's birth photos. My memories.
Not the ones I store in my head. The tangible memories that are all safe and sound.
I hope to never step out of the umbrella of His protection. I am so blessed. Most days I take it for granted. It's sad.
Sunday, May 1, 2011
Never taking for granted...
I follow a blog of an amazing woman. Her husband recently lost his battle with cancer. He left her with two small children.
I can't begin to imagine her loss. How do you move on from that? Your best friend, your lover, the father of your children, your soulmate. Gone.
I would miss your voice. I would miss your over-protectiveness. I would miss your hand holding mine. The hours we spend late at night talking, reconnecting. Your laugh, your smell, your every touch. I would miss it all. Even the silly little things that I constantly complain about. Your habits, your snoring, the way you make our daughter laugh.
I would miss you.
Don't ever go.
Promise me.
I don't want to ever take you for granted. I love the time we spend together. Even the moments in passing. The stolen kisses, quick hugs, they all mean so much.
There is a woman out there, a mother with young children. She hasn't been married very long. But she is alone.
I can't begin to imagine her loss. How do you move on from that? Your best friend, your lover, the father of your children, your soulmate. Gone.
I would miss your voice. I would miss your over-protectiveness. I would miss your hand holding mine. The hours we spend late at night talking, reconnecting. Your laugh, your smell, your every touch. I would miss it all. Even the silly little things that I constantly complain about. Your habits, your snoring, the way you make our daughter laugh.
I would miss you.
Don't ever go.
Promise me.
I don't want to ever take you for granted. I love the time we spend together. Even the moments in passing. The stolen kisses, quick hugs, they all mean so much.
There is a woman out there, a mother with young children. She hasn't been married very long. But she is alone.
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